We’ve all been there: it’s early in the morning and your guy is ready-to-go, but you just can’t get yourself in the mood. You might feel a sense of dread or even guilt, wondering why you’re never quite as frisky as he is or that your nature has changed over time. He didn’t do anything wrong and really, you’re not doing anything wrong, you just aren’t that into sex as you used to be. Instead of giving yourself a break, you might wonder what’s wrong with you.
The short answer? You might be part of the estimated 44 percent of women in the U.S. who have a concern with their sexual function, with one of the most popular issues being a diminished desire and arousal, says chief scientific officer at Nuelle, Inc, Leah Millheiser, M.D.
While there are countless drugs and tools on the market to help men perform better in the bedroom, when it comes to the struggles a female might experience, there’s usually much less discussion. But just like men might find it difficult at times to achieve an erection, women can battle other sexual ailments that not only affect their sex life, but their relationships, too. “Sexual well being is an important component to overall quality of life and our sex lives deserve the care, attention and diligence we give other aspects of our life, such as our beauty routines, exercise regimens and all the other things that make us feel good,” Millheiser says.
Millheiser and other researchers wanted to make it easier for women to get to a heightened sense of intimacy and excitement for intercourse in a non-invasive way, and they developed Fiera Arouser for Her, a personal sexual wellness product specifically designed for females.
Here’s how it aims to help you get the most out of your sex life and start to feel like yourself again.
Though you might talk about everything with your best friends—from your jobs to your relationships—when it comes to getting nitty-gritty and honest about your sex life, and especially your personal struggles, you might be less than willing to open up. Fiera is meant to be something that’s a little more private and you can use from your home, without talking to anyone or getting a prescription.
“Fiera is a consumer device that was designed to enhance a woman’s sex drive, leading to greater intimacy in her relationship,” Millheiser adds. “We like to think of it as ‘before-play’, as Fiera is used before partnered sexual activity to get both the body and the mind ready.”
The device uses blood flow to get you in the mood by combining gentle suction and stimulation. If you can picture it: a very light suction is applied to your genital area, which Millheiser says will send a rush of blood to your genitals, completely hands-free. At the same time, another part of the device stimulates your clitoris. “This will cause a reflex in the spinal cord that results in the dilation of blood vessels in the vulva,” Millheiser explains. “This state of genital vasoengorgement produces the sensation of genital arousal which then leads to a responsive sexual desire in the brain.”
Regardless of where you are in your life – single, dating, married or divorced, being an active participant in your own sexual desires is empowering. When you feel like you’re getting the most out of your sex life, you will be more likely to try new fun things in bed, communicate effectively with your partner and be happier, more satisfied overall.
“Research tells us, that when a woman is satisfied with her sexual function, she feels more connected to her partner and experiences greater relationship satisfaction, self-esteem, and body image,” Millheiser says.